Sex may be the last thing on your mind, especially if you have a difficult birth, painful stitches, or many sleepless nights. However, as your body begins to return to normal and you adapt to the demands of your baby, you'll eventually feel ready to resume having sex. The timing of this is an entirely individual matter.
A sore bottom (or a sore abdomen from a Cesarean birth) may distract you from being sexual during the first few weeks postpartum. Sleepless nights and the demands of new roles can exhaust and stress new parents. Give yourselves time to re-establish your relationship, both sexually and emotionally. Respecting each other and talking about what's worrying you can help. See Resuming sex after birth.
For some, the transition into parenting is smooth, joy-filled and natural. However, many parents find that though they are delighted with their new baby their new lives are chaotic and unsettling.
Remember that you will be in a time of adjustment. It won't be like this forever -- just for now. Be gentle with yourself and your partner as you each adjust to the demands of parenting and to your new relationship. If you would like extra support and help during this time, ask your health care provider for a referral.
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