First trimester: Your sexuality now

During your first trimester, physical changes can feel overwhelming. Fatigue, nausea, vomiting, breast sensitivity, and the need for extra sleep can temporarily dampen your sexual desire.

Some women feel very sexual and attractive during pregnancy. For others, sex is not high on their list of interests.

What's most important is that you and your partner talk about how you are feeling.

• You might feel unattractive, but you may find that your partner feels protective of you and very close to you right now.
• You might wonder why your partner has seemed distant and uninterested in sex, and you may learn that it was only concern that your baby might be hurt.

There is usually no reason to avoid sexual intercourse during pregnancy. However, under certain circumstances you may be asked to avoid it. Talk with your health care provider about what is best for you.

Reasons you may be asked to avoid sexual intercourse

Your health care provider may advise you to avoid intercourse if you have:

• vaginal bleeding
• a possibility of preterm labor
• a history of miscarriage
• vaginal infection or pain
• abdominal pain

Remember that intercourse is only one way to express intimacy. Talking, sharing your concerns and fears, hugging, touching, and cuddling can bring you two closer. You can still have fun together, share the excitement of this special time together, and flirt.

You can still be close emotionally, support each other, listen to each other, and laugh with each other. Make an effort to find ways to feel and act romantic — after all, you are preparing for the birth of your baby!

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First published: 10/04/2002
Last updated: 06/01/2003

Reviewed by: Allina Patient Education experts