For dads and partners: What your partner might need from you during pregnancy

Pregnancy is a time of great physical and emotional change. You’ll see tremendous physical change in your partner. You’ll also notice that her moods and emotions may become unpredictable.

To better understand what she is experiencing, learn as much as you can about pregnancy.

• Read about the first trimester, second trimester and third trimester.
• Go with her to prenatal and childbirth classes.
• Check out some online pregnancy Web sites.
• Support her by going to her prenatal visits. These visits will also give you a chance to ask questions.

Pregnancy is divided into three trimesters, each with its own characteristics. Here are some suggestions about how you can support your partner:

First trimester (weeks one to 13)

• Help her find time for naps and extra sleep.
• Bring her soda crackers or toast before she gets out of bed to help reduce morning sickness.
• Support her efforts to lead a healthy lifestyle. This includes exercising, quitting smoking, avoiding drugs and alcohol, and limiting caffeine.
• Show her your own excitement about your baby.
• Go to early pregnancy classes with her.

Second trimester (weeks 14 to 26)

• Let her know you understand that her quickly changing moods and strong emotions are a normal part of pregnancy.
• Support her efforts to plan and prepare for your baby.
• Attend prenatal clinic visits with her and get to know her health care provider.
• Attend breastfeeding preparation classes with her. Research shows that partner support is one of the most important factors in successful breastfeeding.

Third trimester (weeks 27 to 40-plus)

• Support her efforts to continue exercising and eating right.
• Expect her to feel impatient, worried, unsure and excited. Let her talk her feelings through with you.
• Go to childbirth preparation classes with her.
• Practice relaxation and breathing techniques for labor.
• Reassure her that you still find her attractive even though she may not feel she is.
• If sexual intercourse becomes challenging, find other ways to express your physical love.

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First published: 10/04/2002
Last updated: 09/01/2009

Reviewed by: Allina Patient Education experts