For dads and partners: What your partner might need from you during pregnancy

Pregnancy is a time of great physical and emotional change. While you won't experience the physical change yourself, you'll see tremendous change in your partner. You'll also notice mood changes and emotional unpredictability in her, and you'll have emotional shifts of your own. This is all part of the natural process of becoming a parent.

Pregnancy is divided into three trimesters, each with its own characteristics. Here are some hints about what she may need from you.

First trimester (weeks 1 to 13)

• Help her find time for naps and extra sleep.
• Bring her soda crackers and water before she gets out of bed to help reduce morning sickness.
• Show her your own excitement about your baby.
• Support her efforts to quit smoking, avoid drugs or alcohol, and limit caffeine.
• Attend early pregnancy classes with her.
• Attend expectant father classes.

Second trimester (weeks 14 to 26)

• Let her know that you understand that her quickly changing moods and strong emotions are a natural part of pregnancy.
• Support her efforts to plan and prepare for your baby.
• Attend prenatal clinic visits with her and get to know her health care provider.
• Attend breastfeeding preparation classes with her. Research shows that partner support is one of the most important factors in successful breastfeeding.

Third trimester (weeks 27 to 40+)

• Expect her to feel impatient, worried, unsure, and excited, and let her talk her feelings through with you.
• Attend childbirth classes with her and practice relaxation and breathing techniques for labor.
• Support her efforts to continue exercising and eating right.
• Reassure her that you still find her attractive, though she may not feel very pretty.
• If sexual intercourse becomes challenging, find inventive ways to express your physical love.

First published: 10/04/2002
Last updated: 06/19/2006

Reviewed by: Allina Patient Education experts