Adjusting after the birth of your baby

As a new Dad or parent, you may feel sadness after the birth, just as your partner may. Your sadness may be less easily recognized, because you are not going through the physical changes that your partner is. Talk about your feelings about the adjustment. You may find support in parenting classes or by talking with other new parents.

It might be easy to let your partner do most of the work for your baby, especially if your baby is breastfeeding. If this is what is agreeable to you both, fine. But look for ways to help with meals and housework.

Don't give up trying to help with your baby. When your partner naps, step in and make a special time for you and your baby. When you can see that your partner needs rest, assure her that you can handle things and spend time with your baby yourself.

Parenting isn't an instant skill. If you're not sure how to change a diaper or burp a baby, that's normal. Ask your partner, ask your baby's health care provider, ask friends and family. Attend a father and baby class.

In the meantime, your baby will enjoy just being with you.

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First published: 10/04/2002
Last updated: 06/19/2003

Reviewed by: Allina Patient Educationexperts