Parent-to-parent: Partners and work

Partner reactions

Partners often feel left out after the new baby comes home. Partners of breastfed babies may feel especially isolated since the mother is absorbed in caring for the baby, providing almost all of the feedings.

Parenting goes smoother when there are two parents to share responsibilities. Even if your partner is breastfeeding, you could occasionally provide a respite, bottle-feeding for the mother. You also should be involved in caring for the baby's other needs.

Feelings of jealousy toward the child who is now absorbing so much of your partner's time may occur. By helping your partner, you free up time for her to spend with you. You might ask her what you could do so the two of you could have some time together.

Returning to work outside the home

Many mothers must return to work after six to eight weeks of maternity leave. For others, returning to work outside the home may be one of several options.

Working outside the home may not increase your net income after you have paid for child care and other work-related expenses. Calculate your expected net income to see if working makes economic sense for your family.